Knowing the type of infidelity sometimes makes understanding it
a little easier.
Was it a one night stand or a long term affair? Was it due to mid life crisis or an act of retaliation? Is there a sexual addiction or did he/she want the marriage to end?
There are several types of affairs which include:-
1. The curiosity affair – where one is bored and curious about the excitement of having an external relationship.
2. The unintended affair – a simultaneous attraction occurs in an environment outside the relationship.
3. The compulsive affair – often initiated by one with a risk taking and adventurous personality
4. The retaliative affair – is motivated by revenge and serves the purpose of equalizing the wrongs. But do two wrongs equal a right?
5. The split self affair – this happens when the needs of others are put before those of oneself, and the deprivation catches up. Usually a long term affair because decisions are avoided.
6. The distance regulator – the relationship is usually over but tolerated for reasons which may include the children and security.
7. Out the door affair – an “excuse” for leaving the relationship. This occurs when the relationship is over for the betrayer but wants a quick way out. Often clues are left for a quick discovery.
8. Empty nest affairs – where couples have lived their lives around the children and
have found that the empty nest is too empty and lonely.
9. Sexual addiction – when the couple’s sexual drive is not equalized and the betrayer goes in search of sexual satisfaction outside the relationship.
10. Intimacy avoiders - being intimate with someone outside the relationship helps retain distance from your partner. Is a means to staying absent.
11. Conflict avoidance – an affair to control and diffuse anger, and avoid arguments and difference of opinion.
a little easier.
Was it a one night stand or a long term affair? Was it due to mid life crisis or an act of retaliation? Is there a sexual addiction or did he/she want the marriage to end?
There are several types of affairs which include:-
1. The curiosity affair – where one is bored and curious about the excitement of having an external relationship.
2. The unintended affair – a simultaneous attraction occurs in an environment outside the relationship.
3. The compulsive affair – often initiated by one with a risk taking and adventurous personality
4. The retaliative affair – is motivated by revenge and serves the purpose of equalizing the wrongs. But do two wrongs equal a right?
5. The split self affair – this happens when the needs of others are put before those of oneself, and the deprivation catches up. Usually a long term affair because decisions are avoided.
6. The distance regulator – the relationship is usually over but tolerated for reasons which may include the children and security.
7. Out the door affair – an “excuse” for leaving the relationship. This occurs when the relationship is over for the betrayer but wants a quick way out. Often clues are left for a quick discovery.
8. Empty nest affairs – where couples have lived their lives around the children and
have found that the empty nest is too empty and lonely.
9. Sexual addiction – when the couple’s sexual drive is not equalized and the betrayer goes in search of sexual satisfaction outside the relationship.
10. Intimacy avoiders - being intimate with someone outside the relationship helps retain distance from your partner. Is a means to staying absent.
11. Conflict avoidance – an affair to control and diffuse anger, and avoid arguments and difference of opinion.
